Our Home Isn’t “Broken”

This week, J moved out. We knew it was coming. It’s been more than two years since we agreed to divorce, and it was past time. While it’s a necessary step, and one that in some ways I welcome as the beginning of a new phase in my life, that doesn’t lessen the tinge of sadness that accompanies this inevitability. It’s hard to say goodbye to someone who you’ve been so close to for so long – even when you know he’ll be just down the street.

There’s no question that we have an unusual situation. Of course it has certainly been a challenge, and figuring out the best way to acclimate K to it has been the most important part. But I’ve been surprised that the most frustrating aspect of the transition has been dealing with the perceptions of other people.

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D-Day: Time to Plan Our Divorce Party!

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So this is it. 16 years. 7 years of marriage. Lots of ups. A few downs. And a whole heck of a lot of confusion…by everyone but us.

Here are some of the comments we’ve heard in recent days:

  • “Why are you guys getting divorced? It seems so amicable.”
  • “What’s the deal? Why such a cheerful divorce?”
  • “Oh no! What happened? You guys seem to be so great together!”
  • “Wait, am I reading Facebook correctly? Are you guys getting a divorce?!?!”

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